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My mum loves to point out the actor Khairudin Saharom every time he appears on TV. Usually I jokingly reply that if she finds him such a catch, she can marry him herself. The propaganda targeted at young girls to aspire to marriage has failed to work on me. Marriage, to me, is not necessarily romantic. It is unrealistically idealised especially to young girls and women.

Two people who love each other committing to a life together? Of course that can be wonderful. But the institution of marriage itself, tied to the state and its resources, riddled with legalities that leave "Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction" vulnerable to abuses, and all the difficulties tied to it?

Make no mistake, heterosexual marriages are still far from egalitarian. In fact, the heterosexual marriage has always been such a contested topic precisely because Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction is the site where many women directly face gendered violence and discontent. These days, women are thankfully more empowered to seek financial independence, which provides them with more options for a stable life other than marrying a man and limits the possibility of financial control and abuse.

Married women tend to be unhappier than their partners, and are more likely to be the ones who initiate divorce. And honestly, is it surprising?

The problem, of course, is not marriage per se. Consider the Popular Malay Drama. In these toxic popular dramaswomen with superhuman patience endure crass, controlling, unkind men, and then end up being married to them, presumably to endure that behaviour for life.

The stories may change, but the dynamic remains the same. The woman is expected to be subordinate, patient, and suffer forbearance even as the husband exhibits the emotional maturity of a troubled child. This is what women are told are the virtues of an honourable wife. What these dramas do reveal, however, aside from the ideal qualities a woman should have if she is to be marriageable, is the fact that women shoulder the bulk of emotional labour in a marriage. Women also shoulder most of the undervalued, unpaid work of maintaining a house, therefore working more hours than their partners, and are more likely to make personal and career-related sacrifices for the family.

I need to think no further than of my own mother, who while she was pregnant with me worked as a nurse, went home to continue working on the chores, and even after Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction was born continued to shoulder the bulk of the household labours. The support she received from my father was minimal, and she was "Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction" exhausted and weakened that when she was pregnant with my sister, she realised that she had to quit her job in order to cope.

This left her financially dependent on my father. If I were to Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction around, I do not see many encouraging, loving marriages. Yet our female relatives in dissatisfying marriages often have no issue encouraging us to get married.

My mum loves to point...

Of course, I understand that they would want us to have a better marriage than they ever did. Sometimes I wonder if they list qualities lacking in their own husbands. One of the most fervent criticisms of marriage is the vulnerability women face in the bedroom.

star Muhammed Khairudin Saharom posing...

Such harmful beliefs risk breeding a sense of entitlement in men and a complete disregard for the sexual rights of the wife.

As of now, marital rape is not a chargeable offence in Singapore, and many women do not bring it up. The issue of marital rape is one of the many ways in which the institution of marriage reveals the disproportionate amount of power and leeway that is given to the husband for Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction violence and abuses.

It reveals how society has failed women when something as criminal as rape is not even considered a crime and Khairuddin saharom wife sexual dysfunction punished.

The problem is, I suppose, that marriage is never simply about love. It has only been about love in recent modernity. For much of history, so many marriages were loveless, were based on political or familial convenience, and occurred while the female was still a child.

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