A mixed-orientation marriage is a marriage between partners of differing sexual orientations. The people involved in such a marriage may not be romantically or sexually compatible, for example if the marriage is between a heterosexual male and a homosexual female. The marriage of an asexual to a sexual is one in which the asexual partner either does not experience sexual desire or attraction, or experiences low desire or attraction.
For the asexual partner, the word "compromise" is used by the Asexual Visibility and Education Network AVEN community to label the act of consenting to have sex with their partner for their partner's benefit. People in these marriages may need to address certain questions of acceptability, such as whether the sexual partner must be monogamous.
Approximately one third of all mixed-orientation couples stay married. Open communication both within and without the marriage are cited as factors which support marriage, as well as the presence of children.
Bisexual-heterosexual marriages face external misunderstandings regarding the bisexual spouse's sexual orientation as either gay or while peer support is cited as a helpful factor. Successful bisexual-heterosexual marriages "expanded their concept of sexual orientation to encompass dual attraction and assume marital sex as a given". A study on the nature of mixed-orientation marriages was conducted in at Deakin University, Australia.
This study was conducted on 26 men: A different study conducted in found that unfaithful marriages between a heterosexual woman and a homosexual man, where the man engages in homosexual activity, have a high probability of failure. Joe Korta counselor specializing in mixed-orientation marriages, said "These men genuinely love their wives.
They fall in love with their wives, they have children, they're on a chemical, romantic high, and then after about seven years, the high falls away and their gay identity starts emerging.
They don't mean any harm. One case study of a single mixed-orientation marriage led to speculation that heterosexual women in mixed-orientation marriages may be attracted to homosexual men and proceed to marry them.
This claim, however, is widely disputed.
Approximately 30 percent of the straight spouses who contact the Straight Spouse Network for support are men. A mixed-orientation marriage in which the sexual orientation of the partners is not compatible can serve to cover up one's sexual orientation, sometimes for purposes of maintaining or advancing one's career, especially a highly public career.
In this case, it is sometimes called a lavender marriage in popular writing. Some persons cite spiritual reasons for getting married. Heterosexual wives of homosexual men who did not know of their husband's sexual orientation may feel deceived or blame themselves for not having known.
Fear of encountering social disapproval or ostracism often makes it difficult for them to seek support from family and friends. A person who is either in a mixed-orientation marriage or wishes to enter into one may go to therapy or support groups to deal with issues involved in that type of marriage. Approximately one third of marriages end immediately when the bisexual or homosexual spouse reveals his or her sexual orientation, whereas another third end after a short period of time.
The remaining third attempt to continue the marriage successfully. In this case, the most successful marriages reassess their relationship in light of the sexual orientation. Some bisexual men express with minimal conflict their homosexual and heterosexual impulses within the framework of a mixed-orientation marriage,  with openness and communication being a key factor.
Support groups are available for those involved in a mixed-orientation marriage.
The New York Homosexual couples who described themselves as happily married are called states "Although precise numbers are impossible to come by, 10, to 20, wives of gay husbands have contacted online support groups, and increasing numbers of them are women in their 20s or 30s.
Many heterosexual men and women in mixed-orientation marriages find confidential peer to peer support through the Straight Spouse Network, which has contacts throughout the United States and Canada, and affiliated groups worldwide. Divorce is one possible resolution for the homosexual partner, potentially with remarriage to person of the same sex.
Gay and lesbian people who come out late in life may have children from a previous heterosexual marriage. The theme of mixed-orientation marriages in literature dates back at least to with the publication of A Marriage Below Zero by Alfred J. Cohen writing under the pseudonym Chester Allan Dale. Cohen's heterosexual female narrator was married to a homosexual man. Cohen believed that women should be aware of the sexual orientation of a potential husband so they would avoid marrying a homosexual man.
Other examples of the theme include Brokeback Mountain by Annie Proulxwhich features two married cowboys in love with each other. The filmed version of Brokeback Mountain helped bring the issue of mixed-orientation marriages to public attention,  but several other movies had already dealt with the issue.
Talk shows, such as Oprahhave also addressed this situation. From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia. For the more general concept, see Mixed marriage.
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