I somehow made it to the ripe old age of 32 without ever having dated in the traditional sense. I had always just had a magical first encounter with someone, then become their girlfriend.
So, I decided to take fate into my own hands. I shall be returning to my old, one-day-Prince-Charming-will-come ways. After all, my viewpoint now has evolved to: What do you bring to the table?
They set me up to create better boundaries, respect myself more, and I learned to care a lot less about a lot more…and a lot more about a lot less.
Oh, we all know him. They come and go by many names, but he is the womanizer that can charm the pants off anyone. Charming, handsome, accomplished, talented, good in bed, perfect on paper…you know the drill. Nobody is actually bad at dating. Backburner relationships dating learned this lesson the hard way a few years ago.
I quickly recognized this pattern in the newest, hypothetical Prince Charming, and decided not to stress about it, go after him, or push for more. But they Backburner relationships dating NOT someone you do just enough with to keep as a viable possibility. But instead of trying to woo me, they just…started treating me like the back burner. You know what they had in common?
I took myself to go do them. But a lot of that was on me.
We all know this, yet it can somehow fall by the wayside when we get upset, stressed, desperate, cornered, etc. You want someone to plan a nice date?
Refuse his booty call offers until he does. You want someone to make time for you? I used to not be so great at that, actually.