The Dating Nerd is a shadowy figure whose whereabouts and identifying details remain unknown. What we do know is that he is really, really good at dating. I noticed something that kind of pissed me off the other week. I went over and joined the conversation and it kind of calmed down. How bad of a sign is that? Am I dating a future cheater? Can I ask her to stop flirting with other guys or will she just see me as a controlling psycho?
I mean, if that were my actual advice — that you should seek immediate comeuppance, maybe even in the form of a punch to the face. Lighting poop on fire is pretty satisfying.
Unfortunately, though, dealing with this is issue is actually going to require some emotional intelligence on your part. Which is not easy. It often overwhelms our more refined emotions.
Jealousy sounds like this: Which means taking a look at your own behavior first. I want you to ask yourself a question honestly.
You see her flirting with other guys. OK — but are you flirting with other girlstoo?
At parties you attend together, does she see you trot out that special variety of charm you reserve for young women? And that it leaks out now and then.
Consider the fact that in certain parts of Utah, making strong eye contact with a girl you met in church would be tantamount to sending her a dick pic. After all, have you ever tried to define flirting? Maybe your girlfriend is just really friendly.
Sometimes, it makes me feel kind of sketchy, and I wanted to know what you think about it. That conversation might actually get you somewhere. Maybe, at the end of it, she starts behaving more modestly.