What are 'the rules' about your friends sister?
She just also happens to be my friends sister, not sure how much that complicates an already awkward dynamic. I was with one of my best friend's sister in laws. It was good for a long time. And then we broke up. People had to choose sides and I lost friends because of it.
He warned me, she pleaded with me, I listened to the wrong person Every time I see this explanation, what I hear is "I didn't get the beat possible result therefore it was the worst thing ever". Does not the good long time you had outweigh losing a couple friends who were clearly ready to ditch Dating a female friends sister riding over some minor drama anyway? Apparently not, since he's upset about the outcome. I'm not sure why you'd assume he hasn't already made that evaluation.
All he is saying is that there are several factors involved and people in this scenario should consider the potential fallout from a relationship. Of course, some relationships end worse than others and sides don't always need to be 'chosen'. Even a very good friend will ditch you if you complicate his life too much, because he probably can't ditch his sister. And at her age?
Man, drama is much more likely. As a big brother to two younger sisters, Dating a female friends sister riding wish that good friends of mine had dated my sisters considering all of the douchebags they've been through. If' you're considering dating your friend's sister because you're into each other, that's acceptable in my eyes. If you just want to bang your friend's sister It's not worth it in my opinion. Both of my sisters are into douchey swagfags and I know my friends at least would have shown them what a guy should really do.
Also second the don't just bang your friends sister I guess I'm a little bit different. I would not have an issue with my friends just sleeping with my sister if that is what they are both into.
They are both adults. I don't feel the need to protect my sister's "purity" or any of that type of shit. I'm also not friends with any guys who jerk girls around emotionally so that might be why I wouldn't care. I don't understand why so many family members feel like they have some entitlement or evolutionary role to protect their female family member's Dating a female friends sister riding. It's degrading and primitive.
I wouldn't be worried about her "purity" as much as her general happiness and well-being. So if your sister was fine with casually sport fucking your friend, that'd be OK with you because it's not harming her happiness or well being? If I don't think one is good for the other, I'll say something, but people have to live their own lives and make their own mistakes.
That's kind of what I meant. There are a number of guys who have said that it's fine as long as it's a serious relationship, but not if it's casual.
Which makes me wonder if they've ever considered the possibility that their sisters might actually enjoy something casual. People don't usually like thinking that their family members are sexual creatures. It's pretty universally awkward. No one likes thinking of their parents having sex. Why would a sibling, especially a younger sibling, be any different? Whether or not it's casual or serious really isn't their business, even if it's weird it's ok if it is.
It's not like they could actually stop them anyway. The only thing they really need to be concerned about is "safe" and "happy. I'm pretty sure the only way i wouldn't be okay with a friend fucking my sister is if he was doing it in a weird way to assert dominance in our relationship in which case we wouldn't be friends, or if she wasn't able to give informed consent. Anything else seems like disrespecting her ability to make her own decisions.
Dating a female friends sister riding are right in some families, absolutely. I am as protective of my kid brothers as my older brother was with me, though.
Ina lot of families, it's just taking care of the younger ones, regardless of gender. For me its not about protecting her sexually. It's about not putting her into a situation where she gets hurt because she slept with my friend thinking there was something there that was to my friend, just sex. If both parties are okay with it being just sex and can keep it that way, excellent!
The problem is that my sister can't keep up the just sex kind of relationship for any length Dating a female friends sister riding time beyond a couple weeks. I think it's less protecting their innocence and more It's less about protecting innocence and more about not wanting to have a mental picture of your friend's face buried between your sister's asscheeks every time you see either of them.
Because when the relationship doesn't work out--as most relationships don't--you have to choose between your friend and your family. I always saw it more as a fear of losing the friend if it doesn't work out. If they break up, you'll have to choose. That's not the point. That kind of carry-on is disrespectful of the friend, their family, and their friendship in general. The bro-code matters, and minimises drama to boot. If they want to date, no big deal. That's business as they're adults.
It does seem like OP just wants to bang said friend's younger sis, as he doesn't even know her age and is simply "getting some signals.
It'd be far different if she's 17 or 18, something like that, but a 22 year old woman can make her own choices. Also, at 22, they should be able to make their own choices, but that doesn't mean they can. I would think that at 22, the age many graduate from university at, one should be accountable for their actions.
Besides, when Dating a female friends sister riding comes to sex, we all make dumb decisions. One would think, yes. But that doesn't mean they are actually mature enough to be making the choices they are.
Is your point that 22 year old women need protected from their own bad decisions by male family members? Stop trying to read too much into it. I'm saying 22 year olds tend to make bad decisions, partially because college is sheltered and not the real world. When I was 18 one of my Dating a female friends sister riding friends dated my sister.
They were both obviously into each other, and one day he awkwardly asked me for permission if he could ask her out. I didn't really know what to say. Of course I wasn't cool with it, but at the same time I didn't want him and my sister to both resent me, so I acquiesced and pretended like everything was fine. It was kind of shitty after that, my "friend" definitely assumed the role of my "sisters boyfriend" more than the role of my "friend", if you understand what I mean.
When they broke up it took a while to heal things between us, a few years.
Only im still on good terms with the friend, "Dating a female friends sister riding" only because my sister lost interest really quick a matter of days. However, he didnt ask me about it; it was my sister who filled me in before i gave her the "ok" because i too didnt want to get in the way and id rather it be someone i know than a guy i didnt.
To this day he acts like he was some hotshit for getting to first base with my sister and i have to constantly remind him that it was because of my blessing she even continued talking to him. My suggestion to anyone, is no. And i mean to the point where you can imagine them banging your sister. I have 1 friend in where i can stomach the thought. Granted, im in a situation where my sister actually takes my council which isnt the same in every family.
I can't really remember, either way I really didn't want to be the "bad guy" who got in their way, and I didn't feel like I had much of a choice and asking me was more of a formality.
I would have said yes to pretty much anyone unless i knew for a fact the guy was not a good person.
As far as your personal set of friends, i do wonder how much that's a reflection on your choice of friends sincerely no insult intended. Completely different for me. Good friend of mine dated my sister for a couple years. Even during that time we were still very close friends, they lost their virginity to each other, years later after she broke his heart he is still my greatest friend in the world.
I don't see how people get so bent out of shape over these situations. Why can't you just let others be happy and there is no point I'm taking sides when relationships go bad because it was between those two people and taking sides is childish and anyone who would expect you to take a side is a child. I was in the same boat Dating a female friends sister riding you, except I'm 24 and she was She expressed interest I asked my buddy and he said "I don't care, she's an adult.
It's her mistake to make. Nah, I made sure We've been friends since childhood so I know him well enough. If he didn't want me to he would have told me and he would have told me why.
You know how if most people tell you you're a piece of shit you think they're assholes if your best friend says it to you, you stop and think. Your first step in asking "Dating a female friends sister riding" your friend is to accept the risk.
You need a ride?" How do you ask a girl (who you are already good friends with) out on a date?. 5) You are never in any case to date a friends ex or a guy who she was really into.